2019 Wrap Up

Wrapping up the year once again with these questions found on a blog called All & Sundry long ago and tweaked a bit, as is the Gorgeous and Sassy tradition. I recommend thinking about these questions yourself. Here’s my 2019 review:

1. What did you do in 2019 that you’d never done before? I traveled to Minnesota for a work conference and I loved it there.  I had to keep reminding myself that it was July and things would be extremely different there in January, so I didn’t give in to the temptation to make plans to ditch my life and move there. 
Also this summer, but back in Texas, I went tubing on a river for the first time, which I can’t believe I’d never done.  I think I was afraid it would be complicated or like a boat party, which I hate, because you cannot leave and you are stuck there for a long time, possibly with people you don’t want to be with. But it was relaxing and low-key.  

2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?  I said I would do more self-care things and I did. I was better about it than I’ve ever been, I think.  I’m going to stick with that. It’s not really a resolution, so much as a commitment to take good care of myself so that I can be a better parent, friend, etc.  

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?   No

4. Did anyone close to you die?   No

5. What countries did you visit? I began the year in Mexico at a resort that was beautiful and idyllic.  It was marvelously relaxing and good way to start the year.  I think back to laying in a hammock in the ocean while the waves rocked me back and forth and it’s a good memory.

6. What would you like to have in 2020 that you lacked in 2019?  Trust in my own intuition.  I hear that inner voice telling me what’s up, but I second guessed it way too much this year. 

7. What dates from 2019 will remain etched upon your memory? Oh that would be July 20th, the day my friend and I fulfilled our destinies by visiting Prince’s House, Paisley Park!!  Yes it WAS amazing. 

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? After 2 years of classes I passed an exam to become an official certified Digital Archives Specialist. I’ve had major impostor syndrome as an archivist, as my background was as a librarian and it’s not quite the same.  And at the time I got my job, I’d mostly been a stay-at-home mom for 8 years, with freelance gigs here and there.  But my life got  turned upside down and I suddenly needed to find a job and health insurance as soon as possible and by some miracle I found my current position.  But I never felt like I belonged in the job.  And even after taking all of the classes, I was not super confident about that long and exhausting exam. So all of this felt like a huge win.

9. What was your biggest failure? I cut my own bangs in April and it looked horrific. Thank God hair grows.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? I broke a tooth this fall and it hurt like being stabbed through the jaw with lightning.  My dentist convinced me to fork over a ton of money for a night guard, which killed my dreams of getting an Apple Watch for my birthday.  BUT: I sleep a million times better with that night guard.  I think I was grinding my teeth all night and sleeping very badly.  So it was actually kind of worth it.  

I also had a bit of a scare in November that involved multiple doctor appointments, tests and a surprise biopsy. Such a shitty surprise!  But it all turned out to be a-ok, so it was a whole lot of anxiety, a bit of discomfort and then a huuuuge relief.  

11. What was the best thing you bought?  A set of knives that are really sharp and fun to cut with.  Jeans that hug my butt perfectly.  My sadness has been chronic, but my booty is iconic, y’all. These jeans emphasize that fact.

12. Where did most of your money go?  The dentist, HEB and Target.

13. What did you get really excited about?  Traveling and times I got to spend with my friends, which I got to do a lot this year.  My friend T traveled to me in February and we got to have some great hanging out and shopping time, and also chilling at my house watching This is Us. In the spring I met KS in Atlanta and we saw some cool art and did a tour of an old cemetery at night that was really interesting and beautiful. I ran a half marathon with my sister and cousins at Clearwater Beach (voted the most beautiful!) and we got to hang out with all of our hilarious and fun aunts. I met PC in Minnesota in July and besides going to Paisley Park, we explored Minneapolis together and purified ourselves in Lake Minnetonka.  And in the late summer Shakira, Madame V and I met up and stayed at this hotel made out of storage containers in Round Top, where we discussed “classic” literature (Flowers in the Attic, y’all!) and drank prosecco and ate pie. Ended the year with a trip to San Antonio with LG, where I ran a nighttime 10K and then we stayed at a fancy resort where we had a great dinner, drank prosecco (I love me some prosecco) saw pretty, twinkly Christmas lights and had an all around fabulous time.  I was wildly excited to do all of these things and they lived up to my high expectations!

14. What song will always remind you of 2019? It’s gotta be Lizzo’s Truth Hurts.  It’s the song of the year for many reasons including the fact that my youngest son has a great dance that he does to it.  And I put the siiiiing in single as well, so there’s that.

15. Compared to this time last year, are you:

– happier or sadder? I’m at the same level, I guess, but for different reasons.

– thinner or fatter? A little thinner.  Lots of anxiety that I tried to burn off with running.

– richer or poorer? Hmm. Poorer due to the aforementioned unexpected medical bs.  Glad to have health insurance, as it could have been much, much worse.

16. What do you wish you’d done more of?Laughing with the people I love. I did that a lot in 2019, and it made a mediocre year infinitely better, so I have plans to do more of that in 2020.

17. What do you wish you’d done less of? Letting anxiety and sadness take over my joy in life.  I’m getting better at managing this stuff.  I think.

18. How did you spend Christmas/Hanukkah/Major Holiday of your choice? I am taking my boys to Florida to be with my family this year.  I love Florida, it is America’s wang (tm Homer Simpson) and the weirdest state in the union.  It’s also my favorite place to chill with my boys. We are going to eat, drink and be merry.  And go to the beach.

19. What were your favorite TV programs?  I watched a lot of Brooklyn 99 with my kids and it made us all laugh out loud.  Madame V introduced me to Workin’ Moms and that show is hilarious. It’s so wrong, but so right.

20. What were your favorite books you read this year? I read 55 books this year!  Thanks Goodreads for keeping track.  I particularly loved Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb and The 71/2 Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle by Stuart Turton. The Overstory by Richard Powers was also really interesting and stuck with me.  And of course Scruples by Judith Krantz which I read in the Classic Literature Book Club.  That book was like a nighttime soap opera from the 80s.  Amazing!

21. What was your favorite music you heard this year?  This summer I had a strange dream with the song “Southern Cross” by Crosby, Stills and Nash in it.  I didn’t actually know that song very well, but I downloaded it and found it to be this really soothing tune with interesting lyrics. Plus makes me think of looking a huge night sky full of stars and how that makes you feel small in the best possible way. I looked up more info on it and its writer Stephen Stills said it is about the power the universe has to heal your wounds.  Interesting.

Oh…and CC just introduced me to Yola’s rendition of Goodbye Yellow Brick Road and I think I like it better than Elton John’s.  Don’t tell him!

22. What were your favorite films you saw this year? Booksmart made me laugh my ass off.  But Parasite was weird and full of surprises, so I have to recommend that one.  That movie was insane.

23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I took a couple of hours off so I could run in the morning, then drink a leisurely cup of coffee and hang out with my dog before work. Had a nice day at work with lots of well wishes from my very kind co-workers.  Went to dinner with some friends and did a lot of laughing.  Went home and went to bed and was probably asleep by 10, ’cause that is my goal at 48.

24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? I am not sure. My expectations have been really low in a lot of areas of my life.  I’ve been afraid to be hopeful.  Maybe that’s standing in my way?

25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2019?
Librarian up to no good. Always and forever.

26. What kept you sane? Coffee, dear friends and family, good books, bad tv and running.

27. Share a valuable life lesson you learned in 2019.  I’ve got this. But when I don’t, I have an amazing group of friends and family who love me and have got my back. 

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